Teaching Functional Communication: A Parent-Friendly ‘Ask for Help’ Lesson

Kids often act out because they can't say what they need or want.

When kids can't express themselves, they might get frustrated or behave in tough ways to show they're upset. Teaching them to say ‘help’ is a great first step because it gives them the power to ask for assistance when things get tricky, helping them feel more independent and confident.

By learning to communicate, they can cut down on frustration and get better at interacting with the world around them.

Try these Situations to get them to ask for help

• A tricky container

  • This is perfect for teaching the idea of needing help since it presents a clear challenge. Whether it's a jar, a bottle, or a lunchbox, the child will probably realize they can't open it without some help.

• A toy that needs winding or batteries

  • Some toys need a little extra to get going, and when a child can't do it themselves, they might get frustrated. This is a great chance to teach them to ask for help so they can enjoy their playtime.

• A sealed snack bag

  • Snack time is fun, but if they can't open a bag, they might feel bummed. This situation helps them learn to ask for help and shows it's okay to seek assistance when things get tough.

**Tip: Try to give plenty of opportunities throughout the day. The more practice the better results!**

Quick Frequent Lessons (5 Minutes or less each)

• Create a situation where they need help

  • Set up a challenge that requires assistance, like putting a snack bag just out of reach or using a toy that's a bit tricky for them.

• Pause and wait

  • After setting up the challenge, give the child a moment to figure it out. Keep eye contact and look encouraging to let them know you're waiting for them to ask for help.

• Prompt ‘help’ if needed

  • If they don't ask for help, gently prompt them. You can say ‘help’ or use sign language, a button, or a picture card. Tailor the prompt to what works best for them.

• Help and praise right away

  • Once they ask for help, assist them immediately and praise their effort. This reinforces the positive behavior and boosts their confidence in communicating.

Gradually Reduce Prompts to Ask for Help

• Go from full prompt (‘Say help’) to partial (‘He…’) to just a pause

  • As they get more comfortable, slowly decrease the prompts.

  • Start with full prompts, move to partial ones, and aim for just pausing to let them ask on their own.

• Reward any attempt and shape clearer responses

  • At first, praise any effort they make to ask for help, even if it's not perfect. As they improve, guide them to clearer ways of asking for help.

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